In 2016, I traveled to Naples, seeking advice, hell, let’s call it what it was, a spiritual breakthrough. Stuck for a couple of years in my head and heart, I was tired of asking myself the same questions without any new answers. Exhausted at figuring out my ‘what’s next?’, I reached out to an executive coach, whom many people nicknamed, ‘Yoda.’ If I ever had a Guru, looking back, Rob probably fit the bill.
When he picked me up at 7:30 AM sharp, I jumped into his convertible and spotted a double rainbow expanding across an ocean of glass. I leaned over and asked him if he arranged the rainbow too? He just grinned. Like I said, Yoda.
This time he leaned in with small talk out of the way at a quaint breakfast café across steaming eggs. Rob said, “The trouble with you, Beth, is you don’t ask for help. You’re so smart, and indeed, you are smart, but you think you can figure it all out without help. It’s okay to ask for help, Beth. You’ll get further faster raising your hand.” He was so right.
I almost choked on my spinach feta omelet.
In my decades of adulting, my coping mechanism was being a fierce, independent woman. And how much did that hold me back? That was one of the most powerful lessons I’ve ever learned. Since then, I’ve diligently reached out to my tribes, created tribes, and learned to listen intently, ask deep questions, and answer with a vulnerability and honesty that frightens the bejeezus out of most folks. There is magic in vulnerability. And true to Rob’s word, ‘group think’ has helped move me through quicksand further and faster.
Join a tribe or a mastermind, reach out for help, find mentors, and be one. Create opportunities for vulnerability and deep exploration. In the unfurling lies your answers. I’ll meet you there.
Stop acting so small. You are the universe in ecstatic motion. – Rumi